Monday, July 12, 2010

Letter From Your Future Hubbie

Add ImageThis is a letter/article that I found in BRIO mag issue July 07. It's called "On The Flip Side" by a real guy. It starts by saying: Ever wonder what your future husband is thinking? How he is living right not? Wonder no longer...he mailed this letter to BRIO for you.

"Hey!, OK I admit, this feels a little geeky. I mean, how many guys write a letter to the girl they'll marry someday---even before they meet the girl? Probably not too many! But the world is a weird place, so even though we haven't met yet, I thought you might need some encouragement.

To answer the first question you might be wondering about me, the answer is yes. I am definitely keeping myself sexually pure. I do this partly for God and partly for you. I figure if I'm going to ask you to marry me someday, you must be pretty special--so special that you're worth waiting for. Yeah, I know, plenty of guys have given in to temptation and found a girl who is willing to have sex with them. And I have to admit...I've felt that temptation too. But I'm not giving in! Like I said, you're worth waiting for. Besides, I wouldn't want a memory from some shallow sexual encounter with another girl making me feel guilty on our wedding night. How about you? Are you still saving yourself for me? I notice some of the girls in my youth group wear purity rings, and that's cool. I'm proud of them even though none of them are quite right for me. But whether you wear the ring or not, I hope you are staying pure for God and me. Hey, don't think that you shouldn't have fun and get to now other guys before me. Truth is, I want you to spend time talking to a variety of guys. (That's how you will know I'm better than all those other dudes when we finally meet!) But I wanted to give you this heads up:Lots of guys out there pretend to be guys like me. Don't let them fool you. If they try to get intimate before marriage, they've just tipped their hand. Dump 'em!

As long as I'm writing from the heart, can I mention something that's bugging me? It's about clothes. Non-Christian guys love it when girls show off their bodies. You know what I mean: short shorts and skirts, bare stomachs, skimpy tops. Some fashions might not show skin, but they're so tight they might as well be painted on. They reveal every curve and encourage superficial jerks to think lustful thoughts about girls wearing them. I don't write this to complain. I just want to encourage you to set a higher standard. It would kill me to finally find you--and then to see you wearing stuff designed to glue other guys' eyes to your body. Sure, I know what some girls say: "To catch a guy these days, this is the kind of bait we need." Garbage. Tell your friends that any guy can be caught by flaring skin isn't worth having. That's not the kind of guys who's gonna stick by you and be faithful after you've gotten married, had a baby and gained a few pounds. That kind of guys will always be lured to other shapely bodies.

You probably wonder what I look like, so you'll know me when we finally meet. Sometimes I wonder what you look like too. Almost every time I meet a new Christian girl I wonder if she's you. I might not recognize you at first sight, but be patient with me. I'll want to get to know you, to make sure you're sincere and not just putting on an act. But when I see that you truly love God, when I see what a beautiful soul you have, I'll begin to suspect that you're the one for me, even if you don't consider yourself attractive. Well, this has been kinda strange writing to you like this. But with so many people our age messing up and doing dumb things they can never undo, I figured this letter was worth the extra effort.

So stay cool, stay pure, stay close to God, and I promise that I'll do the same. Deal? Hey pray for me ok? I'll pray for you too. We don't have to know eachother's names to do that. After all, God knows! See ya (someday)! Love in Christ, Me." This really meant alot to me when I read it today. (I've read it before...but it was a while ago) I just came back from the 4-H fair in my county...and I was struck with the jealousy bug. I saw all these girls with their boyfriends... and felt left out and ugly. The same thing happens every year. This letter encouraged me...and I hope it does the same to you. :)


Natasha Atkerson said...

Thank you! Its very encouraging! Just to let you know, I don't have a boyfriend either, so your not alone! And it is by choice!

Daughter of the King said...

I think I still have the issue of Brio with that article in's remembered fondly too for me! Ah...purity, modesty and faithful patience! Gotta love it....and that letter is beautiful! :)

Rae said...

To be honest I was thinking about something like this the other day... I was so cool how God worked it out that you'd post this.. Cause I really needed this right now!!
Made me get all choked up but it was so encouraging..
Thanks for posting..!

Beth Ann said...

Really encouraging post Ashley. :)
Luv ya ♥

*Ashley* said...

thanks everybody :) and Rae-- Your not the only one...I got choked up too. :)

Marie said...

I'm boyfriend-less also! :) This letter was SO sweet, definitely an encouragement. Thanks so much for posting! <3

PS haha I have to admit sometimes in public its like all I see are COUPLES, it can feel a little lonely sometimes! :-/ But its helpful to know that there might be a guy out there waiting for me like I've been waiting for him! :)

-Bess- said...

I love the future husband letter! So sweet & encouraging - just like you for putting it up here, dear sis! Yes, there's someone special out there for you - just keep waiting! Oh, waiting...I've conquered college & am STILL waiting, but God has great plans doesn't He? Yep.

Love, Blessings, & Prayers,

P.S.: Know you are beautiful, special, & utterly wonderful! That's God (& me) talking there! =) It's TRUE! Beautiful!